Positive Obsession Two first time lovers are usually super obsessed with each other. When you are obsessed with something, say a new skill: 😍1. you find yourself always learning and improving, 😍2. you find yourself yearning for excellence always, 😍3. you find it as fun even when challenging 😍4. you find out you’d do it well irrespective of incentive 😍5. you find inspiration to believe it will be rewarding.